July 8th, 2024
Learning is a train
Learning is a train, get on board.
Originally posted 2020-09-17 14:12:04. Republished by Blog Post Promoter
July 1st, 2024
Teaching Selflessness
It’s a trap to think that in order for us to be happy, we need to put ourselves first. Scientists have evidence that one way to increase happiness is to be thankful and grateful:
The video above gives one easy way to put others first by making a “gratitude chart.”
Here are some other ideas from Love and Logic:
- Make sure to love your student in a selfless way.
- Teach them to serve you and their family. “Do your kids have a list of contributions (a.k.a. “chores”) that they need to complete by various days or times of the week? Are you holding them accountable for failing to complete the duties by the prescribed deadlines? Are you doing this with empathy… rather than anger, lectures, threats, or bribes?”
- Expect tangible mini acts of service. ” Should our children be seated when older adults have to stand? What wonderful lessons can be learned when we expect them to rise and offer their seat to someone else? Are your kids holding doors open for people? When in line are they offering someone to go ahead of them? Are they offering to carry something for someone who is struggling?”
- Allow boredom. “Since they have a phone or tablet, and have constant access to videos as their parents shop or do similar less-than-stimulating things, they are being entertained. When we do this, are we stealing from them? Might this practice be contributing to the number of young people who have absolutely no impulse control skills?”
- Limit exposure to popular media. “Are the relationships portrayed in most television shows, modern movies, and other media, the kinds we want our kids emulating?”
- Community service… as a privilege not a punishment. “Too frequently “community service” is viewed as something only done by drunk drivers and others who’ve broken the law. In a Love and Logic home, community service is not designed to be a punishment… it’s intended to be an opportunity… a privilege. It’s intended to be seen as an opportunity to be part of something important, needed, and noble.”
Originally posted 2017-11-13 17:36:31. Republished by Blog Post Promoter
June 24th, 2024
If you want something
Originally posted 2016-10-15 08:03:36. Republished by Blog Post Promoter
June 17th, 2024
What to say to your student when things get tough
Has someone ever said to you, “Just try it, it’s easy!” and then you found out the task they coaxed you into trying was painfully difficult? Did this leave you feeling exceptionally capable or downright stupid…and embarrassed?
When this happens to the average adult, it doesn’t take long for them to conclude two things:
- This person who’s trying to help me is nuts…and definitely not to be trusted!
- Why should I try if I can’t even handle the easy stuff?
Quite frequently I overhear well-meaning parents and educators using the “Just try it, it’s easy!” approach in an attempt to urge a reluctant child into trying something they’re afraid of. When the child finds the task easy, all is right with the world. When they don’t, they’re confronted with the pain of seeing that they might be so slow that they can’t even do something really, really “easy”!
Keep reading to find out how to help motivate your student to keep working through difficult tasks.
Originally posted 2011-09-22 16:57:17. Republished by Blog Post Promoter
June 10th, 2024
The value of losing
“…Loving parents allow their children to develop winning skills by allowing them to experience disappointments, make small mistakes, and experience the natural and logical consequences. Shielding them from all of life’s hardships sends the message that they aren’t strong enough to cope with their losses. Loving them through their sadness allows them to win every time they lose.”
Read the rest here.
Originally posted 2012-03-07 07:14:40. Republished by Blog Post Promoter
